It’s amazing the power a smile can have. I think I went through my first 20 years trying to hide my smile because I thought it showed weakness. I wanted to show strength and toughness, and a smile was just too nice.
But I learned through time and trial and error that a smile is a lot tougher than muscles or scowls. A smile can open doors. A smile can change souls. All strength does is harden hearts and close doors. You may be able to force your way through some doors, you may be able to change minds through force and intimidation, but in the end that is not a final solution. Just a temporary fix. The door you pushed through is still going to be closed to you next time, probably more so. A smile can open it up, and keep it open forever.
It comes down to two different styles of leadership and dealing with people – do you want to be the type of leader that dictates and forces compliance, or the type who builds capacity based on respect and relationships, and then dictates – and compliance comes naturally and organically because of that respect and relationships.
Just smile. Have a positive attitude in all things. Then people will not only start opening doors, they will hold them open for you and offer to help you pass through them.
I remember very little from my elementary education years, if you figure that there were about 1000 days in K-5, and I probably remember maybe 200 individual days or events. I do have some knowledge of the things I learned (I remember the ABC’s, how to count, and that the united states has 50 of them – so don’t get discouraged teachers. It IS sinking in.)
But the day to day stuff is pretty much lost to me, except for some very specific memories –
– asking a girl to be my girlfriend (she declined)
– Any time I was made fun of or embarrased
– Meeting friends for the first time
– The talent show in 5th grade
– Mrs. Phillips singing “Peanut Butter and Jelly”
– and on and on (that’s maybe another blog post – “elementary memories”
The point is, memories are made each day in our classrooms, and we don’t even know it. We usually don’t even know it when they happen (like the girl I heard talking to a boy yesterday, asking “if you could go out with anyone in the class, who would it be?” with a hopeful tone to her voice (he was WAY too young to know how to respond to that).
Next time someone asks you what it is you do, if you’re a parent or teacher or mentor or friend, tell them you’re a MEMORY MAKER.
Now, excuse me. I have a few memories to make myself.
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When you go out in the morning, do you see yourself as the hero or villian in your story? I’m willing to bet almost everyone sees themselves as the Batman in their story (or Superman, or Wonder Woman…). And the people that are the challenges in your life, they are the bad guys – the Jokers, Lex Luthors, and…whomever Wonder Woman fights.
What we need is new thinking. We need a realization that EVERYONE is the hero in their story. To Apollo, Rocky was some upstart young guy who didn’t pay his dues who was getting into the big leagues and trying to steal his thunder and his paycheck. This guy needed taken down a peg, and it was up to the hero – Apollo Creed – to do it.
When you come up against your nemisis (like the lady at the coffee shop that always ruins your order, or the co worker who is passive agressive and always talks behind your back, or the boss who yells a lot for no reason) or just someone who is making your life difficult (like that kid who just won’t stop talking about his summer vacation, or the one who always whines when he loses at checkers) try to remember that they aren’t the villain. They’re the hero of their story, and it’s up to you to meet them with respect – like Batman and Superman do. They may not agree all the time. They may believe THEY are the right hero for the job. But they aknowldege they are both heroes, just trying to do good in this crazy little world. And they respect each other.
Respect each other today, and believe like I believe – people are just trying to do the right thing (even if they don’t always do it the right way!).
I love when you can kill two birds with one stone.
Sometimes when you’re teaching kids you lose yourself in the process. In fact, focusing on the objective at hand is extremely important. However, if you can combine objectives – if you can do two things at once – that’s even better.
100 years ago it was pretty good if you could just read and write. But as we learn more an more about our earth, there’s more and more we have to teach. I can’t imagine what the state standards are going to look like another 100 years from now!
But with all that to teach, there’s not enough time to do it one by one. You have to get creative.
Recently we did gingerbread houses with crackers and frosting. It was great, because we could talk about nutrition, and also about communities and construciton. We talked about squares, rectangles, triangles. We talked about weight and load bearing, and why roofs should be peaked.
And in the end, we had a snack. That’s killing two birds with one stone!
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Finished my first attempt at a childrens book. Go to http://www.mredie.com and click the “self published books” link to the right. It’s a ppt. (that’s powerpoint for the layman). Check it out, let me know what you think. It’s a highbrow work of realistic fiction (insert sarcasm as needed).
The short kid is almost always picked last for basketball. And really, I don’t blame them. If I can get it to the hoop at all, it’s a miracle. I fared a little better in High School, but I was never the superstar jock (I did date a cheerleader though – later to become my wife… 🙂
But I always went out for sports, even if I wasn’t making all the touchdowns or hitting home runs. Mostly because it was important to be a part of something. Maybe I didn’t realize it at the time, but I was learning to stick with something, to tough it out if it was hard, and to suck it up if I didn’t like what the coaches said. Really, I was learning to be a hard worker. In a lot of ways, organized sports closer mimics the work environment more than the classroom. Teachers are like parents. Coaches are more like bosses.
So it’s good to get the kids out there in something, even if they aren’t the next Ichiro. I, for one, am not really a fan of interrupting my day, after working 10 hrs., to go see a little league game. But, it’s important for the kids. So… as one of my coaches might’ve said – “Suck it up! Get out there, Edie!” You got it, coach.
Waterparks – a modern gift for parents
One of the things we like to do a few times each summer is take the kids to the waterpark. We don’t have money for something big, like Disneyland or even Silverwood – besides the travel time, it costs more for each kid to get in than it would to buy them a new winter coat! – – and its better than just taking them to the park or the movies. We do plenty of that too, but the waterpark is something special (and to them, it’s just as special as an amusement park – all they know is it’s a fun thing that’s new and different – the size difference doesn’t seem to register yet (thank goodness!)
So the waterpark is perfect – I come off looking like an awesome dad, and don’t have to spend much (it cost about 20 bucks for the whole family of six).
One thing that is great about the waterpark is the opportunity for the kids to stretch their boundaries. We started the day with the littlest one not wanting to dip his feet in, and ended the day with him begging me to take him out to the farthest spot of the wave pool. The 5 year old got to experience the slides for the first time, and spent the day jumping headfirst into waves (something he never would have done at the beginning of the summer).
So, the waterpark is a cheap and easy lesson in courage. Good times for all. And mom gets to relax and work on the tan. Win, win.
Bikin’ – If trains are a cool fun way to get kids interested in science, I think they got nothin’ on bikes!
The great thing about bikes is that most kids can relate to them, understand them, have them….boys and girls all learn to travel faster than running with bikes first. It’s really their introduction to driving. You start crawling, then walking, then learn to ride with training wheels, then without, and then it’s drivers license time! Bicycles are the step in between crawling and driving yourself on a date for the first time. This is big stuff people!
Honestly though, bikes are an awesome introduction to mechanics and physics. Bring your bike in to school – or even better see how many parents will bring their kids bikes in for the day. Some kids even bike to school anyway! The wheels themselves are simple machines – the most important cave man invention ever! 🙂 But the gears are the real wonder. They enable you to turn the pedals once, and with the larger sprocket on the front (the pedal side), it causes that smaller sprocket (on the wheel) to turn more, and to turn faster, than you had to pedal. That’s why you can go faster than you can actually run (or move your feet around in a circle!) In the end, it’s a good intro to the idea of an engine – basically a car works the same way. You’re the engine in this scenario, and your gasoline makes the crankshaft turn, causing the wheels to move.
Weve done this at school, and also at home, and the bike ride was a great time, and all kids involved had fun and were ENGAGED in the lesson. Fun stuff. Keep on learnin’!
There’s nothing some boys like better than trains. They seem larger than life. They’re like cars, but something special they don’t see all the time. They have this snake-like quality. And you can add to it – like a charm bracelet for a male mentality. Trains are great! And they’re windows into teaching quite a few things. Steam and coal are two ways trains powered their engines. Get the kids talking about energy and motion through trains. On the same vein, how about energy transferrance (a big MSP science topic) where the power of the steam is converted to kinetic energy that moves the train. Then there’s the history aspect of it. The history of the train is the history of our expansion west. Many towns (including mine) were direct results of train construction. Draw a train. Go see a train at a museum or local station. Play with a train set. Then let that fun translate to knowlege! (how do I do that? you ask? It’s as easy as talking and asking what they don’t understand. The more you converse (not lecture) the more they learn.)
Summer is here (thank you!) and I’ve had a bit of time to rest and reflect. During the year it seems there is no time to stop and think about what we’re doing or where we’re going with it. The whole year steamrolls until we now are at a dead stop and looking back at the wreakage of my teaching. Of course, it wasn’t all bad, I just think I can do better. Why can’t I try and be the best? What occurs to me is that, more and more, we see that kids learn best by doing thinkgs that are practical and necessary. Kids learn by actually doing things, and those things should be useful to them. One of the advantages of working in a multi-age classroom (read, one room school house) is having to come up with activities that work for lots of kids that are active. This does not mean you have to throw away every workbook you use (really, there’s no other way to teach subject and predicate is there?), I’m merely proposing that you make sure and include (this is parents and teachers both I’m talking to now) SOMETHING relevant in their day each day. Your kids’ education starts yesterday!